Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.Gary Chapman
People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.Gary Chapman
Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know a love that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct.Gary Chapman
Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.Gary Chapman
What we do for each other before marriage is no indication of what we will do after marriage.Gary Chapman
Encouragement requires empathy and seeing the world from your spouse's perspective.Gary Chapman
The best thing we can do with past failures is to let them be history.Gary Chapman
The object of love is not getting something you want but doing something for the well-being of the one you love.Gary Chapman
If we learn to meet each other's basic emotional needs, we can remain deeply in love.Gary Chapman
We tend to speak our primary love language, and we become confused when our spouse does not understand what we are communicating.Gary Chapman